Snow Storm

What could possibly be worse than being snowed in?  How about being snowed in with a teenage girl?  And not just any teenage girl,  a teenage girl that is not your own but your boyfriends.  Yup.  That is where I am right now.  Snowed in with my boyfriend's daughter.  We all live together as a family.  My boyfriend and I bought a house a little over a year ago.  I love having the house and being with my boyfriend, but sometimes the stress of a teenager stress me out.  I don't have any kids of my own and my boyfriend and I were going to try to have one together this year.  I say were because right now I am not so sure I want one.  You would think that after being together for so long that the teenager would have some type of respect for me, if for no other reason than that I am an adult.  But no.  Just now I went outside to shovel the stairs and walk way, I didn't even ask her to help but she comes out anyway and I think: "wow, she is doing something without being asked."  No, not really the case.  She was bored and decided to come outside to whine at me.  "Why do I have to shovel?  I am not going to help later when you do the end of the driveway for daddy.  I did it all last time...."  And on it went.  I told her that if she didn't help later then she would not get to use her laptop for the rest of the week.  I thought that she would explode.  Sometimes I feel like I have no control.  She is not my child so I really can't punish her and I feel like he dad doesn't want to punish her because she just come to live with us.  I can remember being a teenager and I know how hard it can be sometimes.  I get it, but I still had respect for people....well except for my step-father, but that is another story all together.  I never used to call my parents dumb and stupid and retard, as those seem to be our nickname lately.  I would have had my face slapped.  I am not saying that should be the case, but seriously a stern talking to and no computer or phone for a week would go a long way to showing "Hey WE are the ADULTS, YOU are the CHILD,  get you act together."  Maybe I am old fashioned or a sick in the mud or a bad person I don't know.  But I am an adult and I feel that I deserve some type of respect.